Hello Fellows:),
An other toastmasters meeting passed, this photo was taken yesterday evening. Once more I understood that repeating experiences shape the brain, if you repeat more it will be develop;)
Competent Communicator Manual Project 3:
Get to the Point_06.02.19_ITM
Living without Bias
We all see the world through our experiences and before I tended to believe that people will act the way I expect them. But as the time passed, I realized that everyone is acting differently.
Dear Toastmasters and Guests, I would like to call your
attention on differences today. I want to brake the bias that is blocking our
relationships and interactions.
Lets go to the days when I was in Muscat- Oman, I will tell
you about couple of my experiences.
One day in the company club I was waiting in the queue in
order to buy an ice cream and an Omani boy I met several times the other days came
closer to me and whispered…! ‘’ Can I buy your ice-cream?’’. I accepted his
treat, then we both turned back to our tables. The thing was to me maybe he was
going to share it with his friends that he interacted with me or he had a crush
on me. But why would I judge? How can I
know, can I read other people’s mind? Maybe it was the thing that he wanted to
show how hospitable Omani people are. If he was Scandinavian he would probably
come and sit our table because he liked me. But again how I can make this
generalization? Behaviors yes can change culture to culture but can change person
by person in their grown up environment. And we all know that, my behavior is
affected by my family education. What do you think?
And now lets go to the last week of my Oman journey, the day when I went to the
historical fish-market, land of Sinbad.
There I saw a fisherman was bringing water from the sea
which is at least 500 meters far away, and the temperature had reached 40-degree-plus
conditions that time. There was water everywhere, pouring. I learned that in
many years they were struggling because there was lack of water and it was
because they knew the importance of finite resources. No judge, no bias, but I
was increasing my awareness continuously.
Now, lets go to my high school years, I was influenced by
the book named Sophie's World. This book is one of the books my mind hooked on.
It starts with a story…
One morning, mom, dad and little Thomas, aged 2 or 3, are
having breakfast in the kitchen. After a while mom gets up and goes over to the
kitchen sink, and.. Dad.. yes, Dad.. flies up, floats around under the ceiling
while Thomas sits watching. He points up at his father and says: ‘’ Daddy’ s
flying!’’ Dad does so many strange things, such everyday shaves with a funny
machine, sticks his head under the hood of the car and comes up black in the
face.
Now, it’ s mom’s turn. She hears what Thomas says and
turns around. She drops the jam jar on the floor and screams. Most adult accept
the World as a matter of course. And the matter she was shocked is something we
experienced long before and it becomes habit, that people can not fly. But what
about the World itself? The World is also floating in the space.
Sadly, it is not only force of gravity we get used to as
we grow up. By learning we are having
lots of phenomena, phenomenon of geography, history, science, art, and then we have
more bias. Try to eliminate those are blocking our relationships, interactions.
Now it is your choose to be like a child who has no bias,
who accepts differences.
Yeso xox
