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Another online meeting just finished. Below is my speech text. Yes this is the’’ aha’’ moment, I am still on the subject of assertiveness, big smileJ, but now with more power,

at list I started to give examples. I used acrobats as a methaphor and make connection with communication. Little step for World, big step for Yeşim, haha.

This time it was ok on the text, not enough time for rehersal. Next challanges are more clarity!! and more engagement!!

Midnight lady is going to sleep now! ZZZzzzzZZZzz! 😊
Listen!
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=oxsW7QYNyZw&feature=share

Enjoy reading!! ;)

Speech Title: ASSERTIVE ACROBATS 
Path Name: Persuasive Influence 
Level 1: Mastering Fundamentals
Project 2: Evaluation and Feedback

ASSERTIVE ACROBATS

Why assertive acrobats? Because acrobats are amazing. Most people watch acrobats and say ‘’ Woooow!’’.  Look at them! They perform miracle maneuvers in the air. Did you ever wish you could perform a miracle in everyday life?

Dear Toastmasters and Guest, join me in flexing your muscles, balance and landing on your feet.

Our first trick is the handstand. The handstand require the skill sets of 1. kickoff and 2. Freestanding balance. Ooooh you are scared? Don’t worry, the acrobatics I am talking about is about communication.

A long, long time when I started working, I shared my hopes and dreams and problems at coffee breaks or in the elevator.  All rushed! Later I learned if I have a problem with a person or an issue I will ask for a 1 on 1 meeting. This is kickoff meeting. It made me more strong and smart, it also gave me an opportunity to showcase my talents and skills and that I am serious about my job.

At first when talking, I looked so emotional. However, learn freestanding balance skill.  It is like a coin with 2 sides. On the one side, I express my needs of not being stressed and overburdened at work. On the other side, I want to be a team player. I can clearly express the issues on both sides of the coin. It is like flipping a coin in the air and it lands on the outside rim. It is a miracle that is happening midair. It takes control. We can all learn the hack standing trick.

Our next trick is the Backflip juu-ump!  This is the basic blueprint for all acrobats. The skill sets to learn are: 1.timing, 2. fear conquering, 3. jumping technique.

Timing… you all know what this is about. There is a right time for everything.

Conquering our fear. Today I know that I am very well rounded and experienced person in my field. In the past I was bullied by my former manager and I was running away from confronting her. Then I exercised my vocal cord musles. Now I can say ‘’ NO’’, No is a whole sentence without excessive explanation. Try it, conquer your fear and then tackle your technique...

My technique is to be clear and direct in my communication. For example my family wants me to get married, they are pushing me, they are saying like ‘’ time is flying, we want to see you with babies… etc.’’. I will know when it is the right time for me and at that time I jump strait to the point!

I exercise my assertive muscles. What muscles will you develop? Let’s talk about landing on your feet…

Last Sunday I my boyfriend and I agrued. I had a very bad shoulder ache and we went to hospital, I got injection and we were checking for the open pharmacy. I saw the map of the nearest open pharmacy on the hospital’ notice board, and we went to the car, he were looking by navigator and we were in the middle of the road where is unsafe for waiting. I gave him directions and I was irritated...‘’ go this way, go that way, I said’’.

He exploded. I did not talk much for a while. Then I heard my voice saying‘’ it is important to see someone’ behaviours in difficult situations and you should have been controlled your anger. Communicating like this can diminish the value of the relationship’’. I clearly stated my point. Then he agreed with me as I was calm and assertive. That is how we land on our feet.

To conclude: Learn to do your own communication acrobatics as I learn to do mine. Changing any skill is difficult and and we can be patient with our progress. I know, with practice we will all become more efficient. Use different tricks and exercise your muscles, balance and landing on your feet.

Yeşim Yazıcı

09.08.2018